amendment to a zero sum game

last week i wrote a post about this thing one calls "game". i thought i knew what i was talking about. obviously when you write a blog post, you believe that you are the expert on said topic. thank heavens i rarely blog and that the content spans the most arb of topics.

anyways, i wrote this post. and then i was properly schooled this weekend.  i realised that i do in fact have game. and not game by the definition i supplied. yes, i met someone. yes, we had a great time. did i get into my animal predator mode and change anything about myself? no, not at all. i was just being my average 4am friday night rabi, which incidentally is the best me i can be as i make no sense, am pretty easy going and don't give a flying fuck.

after receiving a plethora of high fives from my friends the following day (as i said before, we had all agreed that i have no game), i thought about this for a bit. and i realised (which i should have known from the get go, and not been a self-defeatist child about this), that game isn't actually any slick or sick moves. it isn't about knowing what to say and when. it isn't take one step forward and one step back. there is in fact no A-Z definition of game. there are no rules, and there is no committee.

in fact, it is just you being the best you you can be, and believing that that best you is good enough. it is as simple as that. people are attracted to people who are genuine. if you are just you, then you will come out winning every time. i am not the prettiest, or coolest or smartest, but i am ok with that, because i am just me. and being just you is all the game you need.

i think about this character i met on friday night, no gimmicks, no tricks, just a simple, "hello, how are you?". literally. that was it. i kid you not. the fact that he was pretty hot obviously played no role in anything. but that type of approach was simple. and because there isn't a fanfare of bells and whistles, you let your guard down and are more relaxed and are then the best you you can be. and you come out winning!!

so we all have game. just don't be an idiot about it.

but hey, #imjussayin