amendment to a zero sum game

last week i wrote a post about this thing one calls "game". i thought i knew what i was talking about. obviously when you write a blog post, you believe that you are the expert on said topic. thank heavens i rarely blog and that the content spans the most arb of topics.

anyways, i wrote this post. and then i was properly schooled this weekend.  i realised that i do in fact have game. and not game by the definition i supplied. yes, i met someone. yes, we had a great time. did i get into my animal predator mode and change anything about myself? no, not at all. i was just being my average 4am friday night rabi, which incidentally is the best me i can be as i make no sense, am pretty easy going and don't give a flying fuck.

after receiving a plethora of high fives from my friends the following day (as i said before, we had all agreed that i have no game), i thought about this for a bit. and i realised (which i should have known from the get go, and not been a self-defeatist child about this), that game isn't actually any slick or sick moves. it isn't about knowing what to say and when. it isn't take one step forward and one step back. there is in fact no A-Z definition of game. there are no rules, and there is no committee.

in fact, it is just you being the best you you can be, and believing that that best you is good enough. it is as simple as that. people are attracted to people who are genuine. if you are just you, then you will come out winning every time. i am not the prettiest, or coolest or smartest, but i am ok with that, because i am just me. and being just you is all the game you need.

i think about this character i met on friday night, no gimmicks, no tricks, just a simple, "hello, how are you?". literally. that was it. i kid you not. the fact that he was pretty hot obviously played no role in anything. but that type of approach was simple. and because there isn't a fanfare of bells and whistles, you let your guard down and are more relaxed and are then the best you you can be. and you come out winning!!

so we all have game. just don't be an idiot about it.

but hey, #imjussayin

zero sum game

this actually has very little to do with economics. although, perhaps the prisoner's dilemma could be wittingly incorporated somehow, but let's just see shall we.

as usual, i constantly spend time thinking about the interactions and relationships between people. recently, how individuals of the opposite sex engage with one another. i am a mere observer with a beer in the back. but what has really got me thinking lately (by watching my friends) is this element of "game".

now first and foremost, what exactly is "game"? can it be quantified? taught? bought? are you born with it? from my understanding, it is how you approach a prospective individual of the opposite sex, and somehow convince them that you are the best for them. that they should give you a chance. this happens without them even realising what is going on, and before they know it they are in bed with you. does that sound pretty correct?

i am constantly being told that i have no game, and it's true, by that definition i really do have none. I have witnessed friends do magical things in social situations once their eye is on the prize. eye. prize. done son. something switches on, and they suddenly adjust themselves in that moment and convert into animals seeking their prey. this yields results. and all without breaking a sweat.

i on the other hand choose to avoid such situations, and continue on my normal way of high fives and fist bumps. the occasional giggle here and there that even tends to surprise me. and here i wonder why i get nowhere.

so are these tactics that can be taught, or does one have to live out their lives without "game"? is game even important, or a fundamental starting block in relationships? does it not just overcomplicate situations? in my mind it should be boy meets girl, girl meets boy, boy likes girl, girl likes boy. BOOM! and they run off into the sunset. what is the essential purpose of this game? the challenge perhaps? we all like a good puzzle and a bit of back and forth, but can a puzzle be too easy or overly complicated?

for those who don't have game, i am essentially trying to justify why it is okay to not have any. will i be successful in this justification? i don't even know myself.

but these are just questions and thought starters. i don't know the answers to any of this, and if i did, this blog post wouldn't even be a thought. let's chat....

but hey, #imjussayin

rabi