drunk vs sober hook ups

it's saturday night. you are having a good time. shots are being poured. drinks are being thrown back. the sounds of laughter, music and slurred speech are in the air. you look across the dancefloor, and you see the  most "beautiful" (this is gauged differently throughout the evening as each drink is consumed) girl/guy you have ever seen. your loins start shouting, "Must. Have. That."

you realise that normal you would never have the courage to approach this being. but inebriated you is a completely different story. you pluck up your courage and do something about this. one thing leads to another, and you end up finding a lover for the evening.

when you are boozed, you are the best you you can be (as far as you are concerned). fearless. more attractive, intelligent, witty. why wouldn't people want to hook up with you? there is no such thing as "fear of rejection" or "standards" in this situation. you always have the excuse of "i was drunk"; "i wasn't in the right state of mind"; "huh? i hooked up??". when drunk, it is a situation of primitive sexual gratification. you are going to get some, no matter who/where it comes from (this is either followed by a high five from your friends, or a slap in the face).

show of hands: how many of you have hooked up with someone for the first time, and been stone cold sober (this question isn't applicable to those who don't drink. you are a breed i do not understand, and never will understand)? if your hand is up, "bravo!"  I had this experience once, and i don't know about you, but it threw me. people are attracted to each other without wine being in the mix? people can be intimate without having a few jagermeisters first? huh? what?

the thing that threw me is that unlike hooking up in a drunken situation, this type you can't brush off. this type carries a little more weight. this type takes a conscious sober effort to get down. it takes a rational mind to strategise how it is going to happen (no dancefloor. damnit!) there is calculated thought and process that goes into this. a fine example is dating. everything part of it is meticulously planned out, so that by the end of it, you can get you some boootay (although most dates will include some drinking to calm the nerves).

so what am i trying to ultimately say about the drunken hook up versus the sober hook up? the drunk version is just fun. satisfying a primal need. and satisfying it now. the sober one on the other hand takes a lot more time and effort. and it is more than just a physical satisfaction, there is something deeper there.

but hey, #imjussayin

rabi